choice

you may not be able to always choose what happens to you , but you can always choose your response to it. some one tries to provoke you, but to get angry or remain calm in the face of provocation is a choice you can and need to make. the best example of choice that i came across was in the book Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl. Victor was in the Nazi concentration camp where they took away every thing that he had including his name, but yet he chose an attitude that kept him alive .